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First of all, don’t call it Big School! There can be few more alarming things to a small child than the idea of suddenly being somewhere ‘big”. Small children are very aware of their vulnerability. They’re little and they know it so make sure you don’t worry them unnecessarily by discussing things in terms which might worry them.
The same goes for talking about ‘big kids’ or ‘big boys’. They’re not big yet – they’re small and don’t need to feel any pressure about suddenly maturing overnight! As this day nursery in Twickenham says, most children settle very quickly and with little upset.
Don’t over-focus
Another thing small children are good at is sensing stress. If you’re worried about your child’s transition, they’ll know all about that when you repeatedly offer them consoling words which they haven’t asked for! Let them know about the upcoming transition of course, tell them all about it. Their teachers will be doing the same. Then let your child lead the way.
Children’s minds are taken up with the here and the now. They find it tricky to look too far into the future. Tomorrow seems a world away when you’re only four years old. Wait until about a week before their new start and briefly mention it. Be matter of fact and cheerful. Then tell them they can ask questions if they like.
You can remind them of their tour – discuss again any points of interest which they enjoyed on their first visit. Talk to them about the playground and about the classroom, ask them which parts were their favourite. But don’t over-worry! Their new teachers are experts in young children and will ensure your child feels safe, knows where the toilets are and when it’s time to eat or play. That’s their job!
Be excited
Share your excitement with your child. Talk to them about all the fun things they’re going to do and how they will now have the opportunity to do so much more than children at nurseries get to do.
On the day
Make sure your child doesn’t wake up too early. Do photograph them in their school uniform and tell them that there will be a special tea after school to celebrate. Stay calm at drop off, avoid tears if at all possible. A child who isn’t inclined to cry may cry if they see their parent in tears!
